Self Care Mini-Episode: Ways To Show Yourself Love

Let’s start with the definition of LOVE from the Dictionary.


  1. An intense feeling of deep affection
  2. A great interest and pleasure in something
  3. A person or thing that one loves

Often, we look to others to show us love. Maybe you feel like your family, your significant other or friends don’t tell you they love you enough or maybe they don’t show you they love you in the ways you want to be shown. I’ve felt that. I’m human. I think we all have some type of void when it comes to love in our lives. Sometimes, the problem lies within ourselves. Do you find yourself easily criticizing yourself and not showing yourself love? This is something to think about and work on if the answer is yes.

Others around you may be expressing their love to you the best they know how to, but only you know what lies deep within your soul on the ways you need to be loved. Your friends and significant other aren’t mind readers first of all, but secondly, it is not their job to fulfill your every emotional or physical need.

I’ve learned over the years, if you don’t love yourself it’s easy to try to blame others for the lack of that “love feeling” in your life. Maybe you’re still blaming your past or maybe you’ve had something bad happen to you and you aren’t letting anyone into your life because you still feel hurt. Fact is, we look to others too often for self fulfillment when we should be looking within.

I remember a time where I used to wish my husband would surprise me with flowers. One day, I had an ah-ha! moment. Why did I want him to bring me flowers? Why couldn’t I just go pick up the flowers myself? This way, I would have the exact type of flower I wanted and I could display it however I wanted. I think many young ladies are taught their boyfriends should bring them flowers, but they aren’t being taught about how to love themselves and provide for themselves.

I’m not saying that those who love you shouldn’t do anything for you. But, I AM saying, it’s IS important to do for yourself and to love yourself so that you aren’t waiting around for others to bring you gratification when you can make yourself happy. It’s not the job of others to make you happy.

Recently, I asked my friends on Facebook ways people could show themselves love. Here are some of the answers that were submitted in no particular order:

  • Get Enough Sleep
  • Make time to do things you like (hobbies)
  • It’s ok to say NO
  • Massage/Spa Day
  • Manicures/Pedicures
  • Buy yourself flowers or something special you’ve been wanting
  • Listen to music
  • Take yourself on a date
  • Exercise and eat right
  • Take a warm bath

What are some ways that you show yourself love? I want to hear from you. Hop on social media, either on the Wake Up With Patti Katter Instagram feed or the closed Wake Up With Patti Katter Facebook Group and share with one another on how you can show yourself love. I hope this mini-podcast has given you something to think about. It’s important to motivate and encourage each other.

You can listen listen to this mini-episode of Ways To Show Yourself Love along with all of Patti’s podcasts on your favorite major podcast platform by searching WAKE UP WITH PATTI KATTER in your podcast player.