You Don’t Always Have To Be The Giver: 2017 Year End Review

This year was better than the past two years.

January 1, 2017 I decided not to make a New Year Resolution, just like all years past. Every year, I decide I’m going to get through the year by trying to make a positive difference in the lives around me. I feel good when others feel good. Doesn’t everyone? I now admit that while making others feel good all the time you can forget yourself and loose track of your own well being. You can forget about your own quality of life, eventually that’s going to catch up with you.

What did I learn in 2017?

I’m important too…

I’m not exactly positive what exact event in 2017 made me remember that I AM IMPORTANT too. It’s like I just “woke up” one morning shortly after my birthday. I realized, I’m worth the investment. Not only is it OK for me to invest in myself physically and emotionally, but it’s important if I am going to thrive.

You don’t always have to be the giver…

It’s OK to let someone else take care of you sometimes. You don’t always have to be the giver. Someone can only give of themselves so much before burn out hits.

Do you feel like you are confined in a bubble without escape?

Step back and look at your situation. Are you someone who has always put others before yourself and now you feel STUCK doing for others all the time but not yourself? Why do you feel like you can’t escape to take care of yourself? Who is making you feel that  way? What are the obstacles you have and the reasons you use on why you don’t take care of yourself? Why you don’t follow your dreams?

Make Solutions, Not Excuses

Take a sheet of paper. On one side of the paper write a list of all the things you WANT to do but feel like you can’t, or that you don’t have the energy to do. On the other side of the paper, write solutions to the reasons you wrote down as obstacles. Make and set small goals. Baby steps are still steps!

I know single parents who raised children on their own. I know parents who have lost children (which to me is one of the worst things anyone can face) who are moving forward to better themselves and others. I know men and women with severe disabilities who are living their dreams. I know people who are caregivers to their dying family members… and yet all of these people rise. They thrive. They make a plan on how to be successful and stick to it. No matter what your story, someone is worse off. No matter your obstacle, there’s always a way to come out ahead. Any story can have a positive ending. What will yours be?

YOU are the only one holding yourself back from your dreams.

Start checking items off of your to do list and start living. You don’t have to totally stop doing things for others, but you really should take care of yourself. There’s balance for everything. Don’t forget about yourself in the mix. For ongoing encouragement (not counseling), feel free to follow me on Facebook,

Written by Patti on Sunday, December 31st, 2017

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